If your child is already having sex or just tried, and you have suspicions, then try to take the girl to the doctor without asking her if she is a virgin or not. Inform children about how to protect themselves, tell us about possible genital infections, pregnancy, etc. Maybe teenagers do not know that they are not obliged to give the partner everything they wanted. Maybe you find it possible to tell that there are, for example, other ways than sexual intercourse, relieve sexual arousal.Incidentally, dancing is a socially acceptable and affordable option for relieving such arousal. You can advise your children to invent their sexual “exploits” in order to overcome the pressure of their peers, who are excessively bragging about their sexual exploits. You can recall the film “At Sea”, in which 13-year-old children ask each other for permission to tell lies to their friends about their sexual relationships.
Early sex life of adolescents
No additional injury
We have already talked about the need to build trusting relationships with their children, which is absolutely necessary so that children do not rush out of the house for warmth and attention to strangers. In addition to the desire to be with your beloved man, the teenager will also have a desire to create an atmosphere of benevolence and love around him. Children can look for a replacement for their family. We understand that at such a young age it is impossible. Teen disappointment in love will only underline the estrangement in their own family. The relationship of trust is also needed because a child in a difficult, incomprehensible situation can tell you about his problems and thus somehow solve them, rather than drive himself to hopelessness, and then you, changing life in the family. Such problems that are not solvable for him can be: pregnancy, genital infections, and psychological trauma. You can talk about a guy who, after her inconsistency in intimate relationships, turned out to be the object of ridicule and just harassment: not only did the girl laugh at him, but she also told her classmates about it. The guy said that he would not go to this school. And now he is afraid that the new school will find out about this and the ridicule will continue. The result of this event may be a violation of relationships with women in his future adulthood.Adolescents can sometimes not understand that they have received a sexually transmitted infection, which must be treated immediately, and if they realize, they do not go to the doctor, but consult with friends and start taking antibiotics themselves. Self-medication, of course, does not lead to good. The teenager should have the opportunity to talk about this with his parents in order to go to a doctor with them. The same applies to a possible pregnancy – the girl is scared to tell her parents about it, so everything turns out to be late in the pregnancy and there is no longer a choice. Since adolescents have nowhere to meet, their intimate relationships usually take place at home, sometimes it happens in doorways or on the street. If teenagers are caught at home, then you should not make a scandal with the demonstrative expulsion of your child’s partner from the house or even both. This is a huge stress for them – the fact that they were caught in this adult occupation, and if this is accompanied by a scandal, then the event becomes just a disaster. You let off steam, outraged by this behavior, and what will change? Most likely, your child will not stop having sex, but you will destroy the relationship with him, perhaps forever. In such situations, you should be very delicate, and you must get out of them with extreme caution. Just want to say – and maybe this is your fault. What is it, your fault? Maybe at home – scandals, swearing, lack of attention to the teenager, maybe you are focused on taking care of the younger child? Maybe you didn’t tell the teenager about the dangers of early sex life on time or you didn’t learn how to care and make friends, just didn’t talk about it at all?